Questions unmarried ladies should ask before marriage

Find below some of the very serious

questions that every unmarried lady in
Nigeria should ask her prospective partner
before she gets married:

1. What are your life goals?

It is quite understandable that your partner
may feel under the heat like he is on an
interview table when he is being asked this
question. Yes, this is because it is a serious
question which is appropriate for a serious
business like marriage.
It is important for you to ask this question in
order to know if you share a mutual or
related life goal with your to-be husband.

2. Where do you see yourself in the
next 10 to 15 years?

You also need to ask your partner this
question as some men have attended quite a
number of interviews. They are prepared for
questions like that and have ready-made
answers that would wow employers.
But you are not an employer and the answer
you get there would give you an idea of
what your future would be like with him. This
is close to the first question and you would
know whether he is fumbling or purposeful.

3. Where do you want to live?

Moving to the less intense questions, this
should be on your list. You need to know
where your future husband intend to settle
down in; do not assume it would be the
same place he has always been.
Ask and clarify things now that you can. You
may need to consider your job and the life
you have built before meeting him, there has
to be a way you can merge all these into
one.
If your partner decides to move you to the
village after the wedding because he cannot
cope with the cost of accommodation, then
you are on your own. So ask please!

4. How do you want us to manage out
finances?

Many people do not ask their partners this
question because they do not think it is
important. But really, when you are engaged
to somebody, how do you want to manage
your finances with that person?
Will you be having a joint account or
separate accounts? Will his money be your
money and who would be paying for what?
Nigerian ladies should know this important
aspect before marriage. It would be
senseless venturing into a life-long journey
like that and not having a clue of how to pay
the bills.

5. What plans do you have towards
raising kids?

The unmarried ladies in Nigeria should never
forget to ask this question. We all know that
they have to go through the pain of bringing
a child to the world; they also have more to
do when it comes to raising them.
Nevertheless, they should ask their partners
this question. Many ladies become
depressed when their partners ask them to
give up their jobs and careers to raise the
kids.
Know his plans towards this and see if it
would work with yours too or see if you
could talk it through.

6. Are there going to be limits or
boundaries when we get married?

It is essential that you ask this question in
order to know the mindset of your spouse to
be. Many couples who are young in marriage
have a hard time adjusting because they do
not know their limits.
Will you be allowed to hang out with your
friends after you are married? Are you
expected to cut off from your old friends and
make him the only friend you have?
Will he be having all night hangouts with his
friends while you are home? This would help
you avoid problems.

7. What are the values you want in your
children?

Before you decide to walk down the aisle
with that man, you should know the values
and morals he holds in high esteem. These
are most likely to be the values he would
want to instill in his children. Will these
values work for you as well?

8. How would you react if you caught
me cheating?

Now you do not want to be caught cheating,
but you need to ask in order to know how
far he could go when he is angry. You may
throw the question to him like it is for a
friend and watch his reaction. If he gets
aggressive, you would know how he is likely
to react in similar situations.